SOTOPIA-TOM: Evaluating Privacy and Information Management in Multi-Agent Interaction with Theory of Mind

As LLM-based agents are increasingly interacting in multi-party settings, they need to properly handle information asymmetry, i.e., knowing when and to whom to disclose information is appropriate. Yet, existing benchmarks fail to measure this ability in realistic multi-party settings. Thus, we introduce SOTOPIA-TOM, a multi-dimensional benchmarking framework to evaluate LLM agents' ability to successfully navigate information asymmetric and privacy sensitive multi-party interactions. We create an interaction environment which enables both public (broadcast) and private (direct message) communication, and craft 160 human-reviewed scenarios across eight industry sectors, each involving 3 to 5 agents with partitioned private knowledge and channel-dependent sharing policies. To measure interaction abilities, we create a multi-dimensional evaluation framework to assess how well agents share useful information, seek missing details, coordinate efficiently, and protect privacy, which we also combine into a composite INFOMGMT metric. Results show that, across 6 LLM backbones and prompting strategies (vanilla, CoT-privacy, and ToM-based interventions), even the largest high-reasoning model (GPT-5) reaches only a 62% INFOMGMT score, which indicates persistent deficiencies in information seeking and privacy-aware decision-making. Additionally, ToM-based interventions more consistently improve the overall coordination-privacy balance (for example, relative to the vanilla baseline, ToM-Coach reduces critical privacy violations on GPT-4o from 9.9% to 2.2% while increasing the composite InfoMgmt score more than 2.5x from 15% to 40%). Overall, SOTOPIA-TOM exposes persistent limitations of current LLM agents in complex, information-asymmetric coordination and provides an extensible testbed for developing more privacy-aware, theory-of-mind capable multi-agent systems.