rEDMRec: Distilling Large Language Model Reasoning into an Editable Experience Memory for Recommendation

Large language models can improve recommendation quality by reasoning explicitly over user history and candidate items - for example, extracting a user's preferences or explaining why one item fits better than another - rather than mapping history directly to a ranked list. This reasoning, however, is expensive to repeat on every ranking request and, once produced, is typically consumed once and discarded, leaving it neither reusable across future requests nor easy to inspect or correct as user tastes drift. Our insight is that reasoning does not need to be regenerated at every call if it can instead be compressed once into a compact, structured memory that a lightweight model retrieves from. We propose rEDMRec, which distills a teacher LLM's reasoning into four typed, editable experience channels - long-term preference, short-term context, item-perception, and counterfactual hard-negative comparisons - maintained by an LLM memory controller that performs Add/Delete/Modify/Keep operations and refines entries via K-agent debate. A lightweight student LLM then ranks candidates purely by retrieving from this memory, without invoking the teacher again, decoupling online inference cost from reasoning depth. Across ML-1M, Amazon Beauty, and Steam and ten student backbones, rEDMRec improves HR@1 over zero-shot, few-shot, and RAG on every backbone, and over GraphRAG on most backbones, with Impv up to 13.3% vs. the second-best baseline on ML-1M. Channel ablations show that short-term context is the only channel that helps consistently across capacity tiers, whereas long-term, item-perception, and counterfactual contributions are capacity-dependent (and can reverse on the strongest students); debate-based memory optimization lowers bank duplication by 7.4 percentage points while raising downstream HR@1 by up to +0.029 over six optimization epochs.