Density-Guided Response Optimization: Community-Grounded Alignment via Implicit Acceptance Signals

Language models deployed in online communities must adapt to norms that vary across social, cultural, and domain-specific contexts. Prior alignment approaches rely on explicit preference supervision or predefined principles, which are effective for well-resourced settings but exclude most online communities -- particularly those without institutional backing, annotation infrastructure, or organized around sensitive topics -- where preference elicitation is costly, ethically fraught, or culturally misaligned. We observe that communities already express preferences implicitly through what content they accept, engage with, and allow to persist. We show that this acceptance behavior induces measurable geometric structure in representation space: accepted responses occupy coherent, high-density regions that reflect community-specific norms, while rejected content falls in sparser or misaligned areas. We operationalize this structure as an implicit preference signal for alignment and introduce density-guided response optimization (DGRO), a method that aligns language models to community norms without requiring explicit preference labels. Using labeled preference data, we demonstrate that local density recovers pairwise community judgments, indicating that geometric structure encodes meaningful preference signal. We then apply DGRO in annotation-scarce settings across diverse communities spanning platform, topic, and language. DGRO-aligned models consistently produce responses preferred by human annotators, domain experts, and model-based judges over supervised and prompt-based baselines. We position DGRO as a practical alignment alternative for communities where explicit preference supervision is unavailable or misaligned with situated practices, and discuss the implications and risks of learning from emergent acceptance behavior.