# AMU:Admission and Memory Update for Personalized Conversations---Structured Memory with SLM Guided Control

arXiv: https://arxiv.org/abs/2609.36976 · HTML: https://mlsanity.com/paper/2609.36976/

## Key facts

- No citing papers in the map yet (data through 14 Oct 2026).
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- First posted on arXiv 29 Sep 2026.

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## Abstract (arXiv)

Large language models (LLMs) have become the foundation of personalized assistants, but maintaining persistent user memory across long-term interactions remains challenging. Existing memory systems often focus on storage, retrieval, or consolidation, while memory writing remains less controlled: transient requests, duplicate statements, and outdated user states may enter memory and later be retrieved for personalization. In this paper, we present AMU: Admission and Memory Update for Personalized Conversations, an SLM-guided (Small language model guided) structured framework for writing-time memory control. AMU uses structured memory filtering to decide what should enter memory and SLM-guided storage management to determine whether an admitted record should be stored separately, discarded as a duplicate, or fused as an update. We evaluate AMU in a controlled memory writing and retrieval setting. Experimental results show that AMU maintains cleaner and more retrievable personalized memories.