# Mind2Dialogue: Training Human-Aware Language Models by Simulating User Mental States

arXiv: https://arxiv.org/abs/2609.15972 · HTML: https://mlsanity.com/paper/2609.15972/

## Key facts

- Cited by 1 papers in the map (data through 14 Oct 2026).
- Builds on 60 of its 86 references that are in the map.
- First posted on arXiv 14 Sep 2026.

## Builds on (most cited first, 30 of 60)

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- [Personalizing Dialogue Agents: I have a dog, do you have pets too?](https://mlsanity.com/paper/1801.07243/) (2018)
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- [Unifying distillation and privileged information](https://mlsanity.com/paper/1511.03643/) (2015)
- [Machine Theory of Mind](https://mlsanity.com/paper/1802.07740/) (2018)
- [Know Me, Respond to Me: Benchmarking LLMs for Dynamic User Profiling and Personalized Responses at Scale](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2504.14225/) (2025)
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- [Privileged Information Distillation for Language Models](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2602.04942/) (2026)
- [PersonaMem-v2: Towards Personalized Intelligence via Learning Implicit User Personas and Agentic Memory](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2512.06688/) (2025)
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## Built on by (most cited first, 1 of 1)

- [RealCompanion: Benchmarking Human Understanding from Reasoning over Longitudinal Real-World Conversations](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2610.01780/) (2026)

## Abstract (arXiv)

As language models become more capable, long-term collaboration in learning, reasoning, and decision-making calls for a deeper understanding of the people they serve. Yet training such human-aware language models faces a fundamental supervision gap because current datasets for LLM assistant training contain few if any well-informed responses explicitly grounded in users' unspoken beliefs and goals. Scaling such supervision is inherently constrained, as users' underlying states are not directly observable. We thus propose the Mind2Dialogue framework to mitigate this gap by simulating users' mental states and turning them into privileged supervision for human-aware training. Specifically, we first propose a psychology-guided simulator that preserves personal characteristics while updating mental states through interaction to generate coherent conversations. The key idea is to enforce a shared evolving mental state that drives user behavior and guides an Oracle assistant's responses. Our privileged distillation then trains models on the Oracle's well-informed responses to assist users without direct access to their mental states at deployment. Moreover, we propose to evaluate human-aware learning by combining personalization and theory of mind, examining how models understand people and act on that understanding. Training on the full Mind2Dialogue corpus improves every reported personalization metric over the corresponding Qwen, Llama, and OLMo instruction-tuned baselines, including gains of 26.6 to 40.9 percentage points in preference-following generation. The gains extend to belief and action reasoning on Qwen and Llama, beyond personalized assistance. Looking forward, Mind2Dialogue makes user simulation a foundation for genuine AI collaborators that understand beliefs and intentions behind people's words and support their long-term goals across education, work, and everyday life.