# Personalize-then-Store: Benchmarking and Learning Personalized Memory for Long-horizon Agents

arXiv: https://arxiv.org/abs/2605.25535 · HTML: https://mlsanity.com/paper/2605.25535/

## Key facts

- Cited by 3 papers in the map (data through 14 Oct 2026).
- Placed in Agent memory systems, one of 16 directions in LLM agents and tool use.
- Builds on 15 of its 21 references that are in the map.
- First posted on arXiv 25 May 2026.

## Placed in

- LLM agents and tool use / [Agent memory systems](https://mlsanity.com/agents/agent-memory-systems/)

## Builds on (most cited first, 15 of 15)

- [A-MEM: Agentic Memory for LLM Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2502.12110/) (2025)
- [Evaluating Very Long-Term Conversational Memory of LLM Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2402.17753/) (2024)
- [Mem0: Building Production-Ready AI Agents with Scalable Long-Term Memory](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2504.19413/) (2025)
- [LongMemEval: Benchmarking Chat Assistants on Long-Term Interactive Memory](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2410.10813/) (2024)
- [Memory in the Age of AI Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2512.13564/) (2025)
- [MEM1: Learning to Synergize Memory and Reasoning for Efficient Long-Horizon Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2506.15841/) (2025)
- [Memory-R1: Enhancing Large Language Model Agents to Manage and Utilize Memories via Reinforcement Learning](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2508.19828/) (2025)
- [Know Me, Respond to Me: Benchmarking LLMs for Dynamic User Profiling and Personalized Responses at Scale](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2504.14225/) (2025)
- [In Prospect and Retrospect: Reflective Memory Management for Long-term Personalized Dialogue Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2503.08026/) (2025)
- [From Isolated Conversations to Hierarchical Schemas: Dynamic Tree Memory Representation for LLMs](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2410.14052/) (2024)
- [M+: Extending MemoryLLM with Scalable Long-Term Memory](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2502.00592/) (2025)
- [HaluMem: Evaluating Hallucinations in Memory Systems of Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2511.03506/) (2025)
- [PlugMem: A Task-Agnostic Plugin Memory Module for LLM Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2603.03296/) (2026)
- [DialSim: A Dialogue Simulator for Evaluating Long-Term Multi-Party Dialogue Understanding of Conversational Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2406.13144/) (2024)
- [AMemGym: Interactive Memory Benchmarking for Assistants in Long-Horizon Conversations](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2603.01966/) (2026)

## Built on by (most cited first, 3 of 3)

- [Remember, Verify, or Ask? Cross-Family Evaluation of Memory Commitment in LLM Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2608.19564/) (2026)
- [Fewer Clarifications, Better Code: Benchmarking Cross-Session Personalized Ambiguity Adaptation in Coding Assistants](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2607.26611/) (2026)
- [MemFold: Learning Compact Soft Memory for Long-Context Personalization via On-Policy Optimization](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2609.36435/) (2026)

## Abstract (arXiv)

Existing large language model (LLM) based memory systems apply universal, static policies that overlook a fundamental reality: the contexts that are worth storing in memory are different across users. This misalignment wastes limited memory budget on transient interactions while failing to preserve critical context for long horizon tasks. To address this gap, we investigate an underexplored question: can LLM based memory systems learn personalized memory policies? We introduce PerMemBench, the first benchmark for evaluating personalized memory systems, featuring multi year, multi domain interaction histories across diverse user personas. We further present the first empirical study of memory personalization, proposing session level storage gating, a lightweight framework that selectively bypasses memory operations for transient sessions. Our study confirms that personalization yields substantial retention gains under perfect gating, yet reveals that accurate gating remains an open and critical challenge.