# On the Way to LLM Personalization: Learning to Remember User Conversations

arXiv: https://arxiv.org/abs/2411.13405 · HTML: https://mlsanity.com/paper/2411.13405/

## Key facts

- Cited by 21 papers in the map (data through 14 Oct 2026).
- Builds on 46 of its 67 references that are in the map.
- First posted on arXiv 20 Nov 2024.

## Builds on (most cited first, 30 of 46)

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- [Learning to summarize from human feedback](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2009.01325/) (2020)
- [Unsupervised Dense Information Retrieval with Contrastive Learning](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2112.09118/) (2021)
- [OpenAssistant Conversations -- Democratizing Large Language Model Alignment](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2304.07327/) (2023)
- [An Empirical Study of Catastrophic Forgetting in Large Language Models During Continual Fine-tuning](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2308.08747/) (2023)
- [LaMP: When Large Language Models Meet Personalization](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2304.11406/) (2023)
- [∞Bench: Extending Long Context Evaluation Beyond 100K Tokens](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2402.13718/) (2024)
- [K-Adapter: Infusing Knowledge into Pre-Trained Models with Adapters](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2002.01808/) (2020)
- [Personalized Soups: Personalized Large Language Model Alignment via Post-hoc Parameter Merging](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2310.11564/) (2023)
- [Membership Inference Attacks against Language Models via Neighbourhood Comparison](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2305.18462/) (2023)
- [Does Fine-Tuning LLMs on New Knowledge Encourage Hallucinations?](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2405.05904/) (2024)
- [KnowPrompt: Knowledge-aware Prompt-tuning with Synergistic Optimization for Relation Extraction](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2104.07650/) (2021)
- [Fine-Tuning or Retrieval? Comparing Knowledge Injection in LLMs](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2312.05934/) (2023)
- [Personalizing Reinforcement Learning from Human Feedback with Variational Preference Learning](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2408.10075/) (2024)
- [Personalized Language Modeling from Personalized Human Feedback](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2402.05133/) (2024)
- [Optimization Methods for Personalizing Large Language Models through Retrieval Augmentation](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2404.05970/) (2024)
- [MemoChat: Tuning LLMs to Use Memos for Consistent Long-Range Open-Domain Conversation](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2308.08239/) (2023)
- [Pearl: Personalizing Large Language Model Writing Assistants with Generation-Calibrated Retrievers](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2311.09180/) (2023)
- [How Do Large Language Models Acquire Factual Knowledge During Pretraining?](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2406.11813/) (2024)
- [Michelangelo: Long Context Evaluations Beyond Haystacks via Latent Structure Queries](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2409.12640/) (2024)
- [RLHF from Heterogeneous Feedback via Personalization and Preference Aggregation](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2405.00254/) (2024)
- [HYDRA: Model Factorization Framework for Black-Box LLM Personalization](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2406.02888/) (2024)
- [Injecting New Knowledge into Large Language Models via Supervised Fine-Tuning](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2404.00213/) (2024)
- [Teach LLMs to Personalize -- An Approach inspired by Writing Education](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2308.07968/) (2023)

## Built on by (most cited first, 21 of 21)

- [A Survey of Personalized Large Language Models: Progress and Future Directions](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2502.11528/) (2025)
- [PersonaLens: A Benchmark for Personalization Evaluation in Conversational AI Assistants](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2506.09902/) (2025)
- [O-Mem: Omni Memory System for Personalized, Long Horizon, Self-Evolving Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2511.13593/) (2025)
- [Prototypical Human-AI Collaboration Behaviors from LLM-Assisted Writing in the Wild](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2505.16023/) (2025)
- [Presumed Cultural Identity: How Names Shape LLM Responses](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2502.11995/) (2025)
- [PRIME: Large Language Model Personalization with Cognitive Dual-Memory and Personalized Thought Process](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2507.04607/) (2025)
- [InfiniteICL: Breaking the Limit of Context Window Size via Long Short-term Memory Transformation](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2504.01707/) (2025)
- [Anthropomimetic Uncertainty: What Verbalized Uncertainty in Language Models is Missing](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2507.10587/) (2025)
- [TOM-SWE: User Mental Modeling For Software Engineering Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2510.21903/) (2025)
- [MR.Rec: Synergizing Memory and Reasoning for Personalized Recommendation Assistant with LLMs](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2510.14629/) (2025)
- [Evolution of meta's llama models and parameter-efficient fine-tuning of large language models: a survey](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2510.12178/) (2025)
- [Rethinking Personalization in Large Language Models at the Token Level](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2603.06595/) (2026)
- [TSUBASA: Improving Long-Horizon Personalization via Evolving Memory and Self-Learning with Context Distillation](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2604.07894/) (2026)
- [ChildEval: When large language models meet children's personalities](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2605.27805/) (2026)
- [Mind2Dialogue: Training Human-Aware Language Models by Simulating User Mental States](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2609.15972/) (2026)
- [PromptHelper: A Prompt Recommender System for Encouraging Creativity in AI Chatbot Interactions](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2601.15575/) (2026)
- [A Reflective Storytelling Agent for Older Adults: Integrating Argumentation Schemes and Argument Mining in LLM-Based Personalised Narratives](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2605.10531/) (2026)
- [ExPerT: Personalizing LLM Responses to Users' Domain Expertise via Query-Wise Semantic and Keystroke Behavioral Cues](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2607.01242/) (2026)
- [APeB: Benchmarking Personalization Ability of Large Language Model Agents](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2607.03162/) (2026)
- [HyperTrace: Hypothesis-Based Preference Tracing for Online LLM Personalization](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2609.09835/) (2026)
- [When Who You Are Can Change the Code You Get: A Study of Persona-Induced Bias in LLM Code Generation](https://mlsanity.com/paper/2609.22102/) (2026)

## Abstract (arXiv)

Large Language Models (LLMs) have quickly become an invaluable assistant for a variety of tasks. However, their effectiveness is constrained by their ability to tailor responses to human preferences and behaviors via personalization. Prior work in LLM personalization has largely focused on style transfer or incorporating small factoids about the user, as knowledge injection remains an open challenge. In this paper, we explore injecting knowledge of prior conversations into LLMs to enable future work on less redundant, personalized conversations. We identify two real-world constraints: (1) conversations are sequential in time and must be treated as such during training, and (2) per-user personalization is only viable in parameter-efficient settings. To this aim, we propose PLUM, a pipeline performing data augmentation for up-sampling conversations as question-answer pairs, that are then used to finetune a low-rank adaptation adapter with a weighted cross entropy loss. Even in this first exploration of the problem, we perform competitively with baselines such as RAG, attaining an accuracy of 81.5% across 100 conversations.